Sunday, September 8, 2013

Magic

Wow! I haven't had much time to post lately! So much for the idea that I'd be lazing my days away doing nothing. Yeah, ok, that was never going to happen. Get real, right?

Summer vacation may have come to a close but we're still taking advantage of the warmer weather while it's still around and on Friday we took the kids to a Storm Chasers (semi pro) baseball game. As we sat out on the berm on our blankets we watched the kids get excited about all the cheering and seeing things happen on the big screen as well as the field directly in front of us. We snacked on cotton candy and nachos. We sang Take Me Out to the Ball game during the 7th inning stretch. We stayed all the way to the end and watched the fireworks.

Funny how something as simple as a baseball game gives you the opportunity to feel the magic of being a family. That night wasn't anything extraordinary but it's a night I'll never forget. All six of us were able to take the night to enjoy being together and it really doesn't get better than that.

**Note to self... make more magic.**

Sunday, September 1, 2013

Another year, another 1000 lessons learned.

There are moments in life that change you, where you'll never go back to who you were the moment before. Becoming a parent is that. Priorities change, schedules change, sleep changes, finances, your home, your friends...

Today marks the nine year anniversary of Shawn and I becoming parents as Parker celebrates his ninth birthday. I had no idea that nine years could slip by so fast! As each year has gone by, Parker has grown more and more like Shawn. I couldn't be happier about that. He's smart, has a unique sense of humor, has a mind for technology and has a kind heart. He's also a bit of a mess in the organization department, he struggles some socially and tends to be a little obsessive when he gets interested in this. Yup, he's all his Dad!

Becoming a mother makes you a teacher. I prepped for that. What I wasn't prepared for was how much I'd learn from my kids. Truly, Parker is academically smarter than me. (Smarter than a 5th grader? Ha! I was pretty sure I wasn't smarter than my SECOND grader!) But I've also learned so many life skills... to be more patient, to let things go, to see beauty in the mundane. Parker sees the world differently and I often find that he's wiser than I give him credit for. I'm in a hurry to be productive and move on to the next task while he's contemplating the curvature of his spoon while eating breakfast. Often what I pick out as Parker wasting time in lala land ends up being him finding ways to explain complex concepts in his own way. (The spoon lead to conversations about both friction of different surfaces and how large objects have to be before you don't notice that they are round.)

I'm lucky with Parker. He's a forgiving child. Shawn is naturally a good parent to him. They have a lot in common and Shawn is less ridged than I am. I'm quicker to anger, very organized and my brain is ruled by common sense. Over the years I've learned that parenting is a mix of doing things the way I want and parenting the way the child needs to be. I have to work harder with Parker than I do the other kids even though he's one of the most easy going kids you'll ever meet. I operate differently and he pushes me in completely different directions. I have to work to humble myself enough to admit that often his way is as good as mine even if it's not how I want it done.

So, happy birthday Parker. I hope you keep teaching me, that you can always find in in yourself to forgive me for the mistakes I make and that you continue helping me learn how to be the best parent for you that I can be. I can't tell you enough how much I love you and how I'm a better person because of you. I pray that you remain kind hearted and eager to learn. You have much to offer this world and I look forward to seeing how you choose find your way.