I had Dexter's today. (And I was most certainly on time because I have my stuff together and definitely had it on my calendar. *head hung in shame*) I'm one of the lucky ones though. I don't go to these meetings every year to beg, plead, scream, and fight for what Dexter needs. I sit down with a team. His team. My team. I'm surrounded by teachers and administrators who already fight this battle every day.
They come up with solutions I wouldn't even think to ask for. He has headphones, sensory swings, sound machines, alternatives for work rooms, places to be to skip school-wide activities that are too loud (like lunch, assemblies, and walking club), paras who can help him one on one, technology options. He has counselors, school psychologists, special education specialists. Last year a door was retrofitted with a window so he could have a room he could be in alone but still allowed him to be monitored for safety. He gets the extra reading help he needs, speech therapy, incentives to complete tasks he hates doing.
I feel like my job is easy. I go in and sign off on all of the options that they are already making available regardless of whether or not they've been added to the actual documentation. His needs aren't met because I have documents that say they are required to. They are met because our team does everything in their power to make it happen.
I know many parents don't have this experience. I don't take that for granted, and I'm very thankful for the education and experiences Dex has because of where we are.
I also know that teachers' time is valuable. They put in LONG days. I was raised by a teacher, and I know that after school, when they are there, they are losing time with their own families. So when you are flighty and don't write down the meeting and show up 30 minutes late, they are losing unnecessary time with their families. So, Laurie Collins, Jessica Rayne, Carmen Kress, please tag the others who were there or pass along my sincere apologies to them as well. Know that you are so appreciated and that everything you do for Dexter is what gives him the skills and confidence to be successful and happy. Sorry doesn't give you the time back but ask I mentioned in a previous post, when we mess up, we right our wrongs and make apologies.