Tuesday, June 13, 2017
April 14th- Daily Autism Post- Siblings
Yes, there were two this day... making up for the missed one?
The other day, I thought it would be interesting to make a video with Regan and let her explain some of the struggles of having a sibling with Asperger's. Obviously, I never posted the video. That's because it was boring. Regan just honestly didn't feel that there were any struggles. The best she could come up with was that she was more careful about packing his lunch to make sure that his lunch would work for him.
I can think of dozens of ways that their lives are impacted by Dexter's needs, but if they didn't bother her, I don't feel the need to bring them up.
However, last night was a perfect example of how Regan's life is impacted, and yet, is completely normal. Jabe and Dex were arguing. (Normal brother stuff.) Dex got upset, so Regan got him and had him go to her room, gave him a blanket, turned on Foo Fighters (one of his favorites), and told him to focus on calming down. While he laid there on her bed listening to music, she continued to go about her business, packing for our trip and putting away her laundry.
Is this normal for an 11-year-old? Probably not. Dealing with fights between other siblings is one thing, but helping your brother prevent a full-on meltdown, and knowing how to do it is another. I'm aware that it's not something most kids do. But this has always been her life. She doesn't look at things like this as dealing with autism. She looks at it as helping Dexter in the same way she'd help me make dinner or Jabe build a Lego city. She doesn't look at him and see autism. She just sees her brother. Sometimes they have fun. Sometimes they struggle. Just like her other brothers. This is why she couldn't think of how her life is impacted my autism. It's not. It's impacted by Dexter. She loves the good and helps fix the bad, just like she would with anyone else. May the rest of the world strive to be like her.
The bad... he has struggles like the rest of us.
The good... he doesn't face them alone. He's part of a family that loves him and his siblings (although they make him crazy sometimes) have his back.